#elf

... no one can ever save someone else, you know? We can only save ourselves. You know that, don't you? ↗

— Carrie Jones

#self-determination #self-determination

Best be yourself, imperial, plain, and true. ↗

— Robert Browning

#self-determination #self-determination

you're not a bad person because you want to be yourself. ↗

— Jodi Picoult

#self-determination

If you knew your potential to feel good, you would ask no one to be different so that you can feel good. You would free yourself of all of that cumbersome impossibility of needing to control the world, or control your mate, or control your child. You are the only one who creates your reality. For no one else can think for you, no one else can do it. It is only you, every bit of it you. ↗

— Esther Hicks

#abraham-hicks #allow #control-freaks #control-issues #controlling

look for a long time at what pleases you, and longer still at what pains you... ↗

— Colette

#self-help-book #words-of-wisdom #self-help

Crying was an acceptable outlet, even if it made you feel raw and empty inside, it was still better than that build up of resentment that grew from not letting your emotions out. - My Bestfriend's Girl - ↗

— Dorothy Koomson

#self-help

Sometimes I'm so deeply buried under self-reproaches that I long for a word of comfort to help me dig myself out again. ↗

— Anne Frank

#sadness #self-help

I’ve come to think that flourishing consists of putting yourself in situations in which you lose self-consciousness and become fused with other people, experiences, or tasks. It happens sometimes when you are lost in a hard challenge, or when an artist or a craftsman becomes one with the brush or the tool. It happens sometimes while you’re playing sports, or listening to music or lost in a story, or to some people when they feel enveloped by God’s love. And it happens most when we connect with other people. I’ve come to think that happiness isn’t really produced by conscious accomplishments. Happiness is a measure of how thickly the unconscious parts of our minds are intertwined with other people and with activities. Happiness is determined by how much information and affection flows through us covertly every day and year. ↗

— David Brooks

#affection #connections #consciousness #happiness #information

Choice is the keynote of self-determinism. To determine anything, you must have the choice to determine. Choice to determine means that you must have the power of decision. Decision and time have a lot in common. When we have clean, clear decision, we have clean, clear time. And when we have indecision, there is an unclarity about time. ↗

— L. Ron Hubbard

#decisions #self-determination #self-determination

The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others' appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among. ↗

— Alain de Botton

#others #self-doubt #uncertainty #value #self-determination