#fender

The survivor movements were also challenging the notion of a dysfunctional family as the cause and culture of abuse, rather than being one of the many places where abuse nested. This notion, which in the 190s and early 198s was the dominant understanding of professionals characterised the sex abuser as a pathetic person who had been denied sex and warmth by his wife, who in turn denied warmth to her daughters. Out of this dysfunctional triad grew the far-too-cosy incest dyad. Simply diagnosed, relying on the signs: alcoholic father, cold distant mother, provocative daughter. Simply resolved, because everyone would want to stop, to return to the functioning family where mum and dad had sex and daughter concentrated on her exams. Professionals really believed for a while that sex offenders would want to stop what they were doing. They thought if abuse were decriminalised, abusers would seek help. The survivors knew different. P5 ↗

— Beatrix Campbell

#abusers #child-abuse #crime #criminal #dysfunctional-family

If you smash a city when you're trying to capture it, you actually end up providing the perfect terrain for the defenders while blocking the access for your own armoured vehicles. ↗

— Antony Beevor

#actually #blocking #capture #city #defenders

The nation's obligation to her defenders is as old as that defense itself. ↗

— Steve Buyer

#defense #her #itself #nation #obligation

I go through about two Fender mediums a night because I don't pick straight down; it's sort of sideways, and it shaves them off. ↗

— Robin Trower

#because #down #fender #go #i

There's no question that we need tougher drunk-driving laws for repeat offenders. We need to take a lesson from European countries where driving isn't a right but a privilege. ↗

— Jesse Ventura

#driving #european #european countries #laws #lesson

In order to drill into young men the need to stay alert and stay alive, I used to punish offenders with my fists, boots and rifle butt, and with stockade time. ↗

— David Hackworth

#alive #boots #drill #fists #i

Further, a defensive policy involves the loss of the initiative, with all the consequent disadvantages to the defender. ↗

— Douglas Haig

#defender #defensive #disadvantages #further #initiative