I think the biggest reason I was able to express myself and not be intimidated was by not having a mother. For example, mothers teach you manners. And I absolutely did not learn any of those rules and regulations. ↗
It's much better to have rules that we can actually live within. And absolute prohibitions, generally, are not the kind of rules that countries would live within. ↗
Write your story as it needs to be written. Write it honestly, and tell it as best you can. I'm not sure that there are any other rules. Not ones that matter. ↗