It has been one of my difficulties, in arguing this question out of doors with friends or strangers, that I rarely find any intelligible agreement as to the object of the war. ↗
If you go to most third world countries, the older woman dispenses advice to the arguing couple while other members of the family, or even the village, sit around and listen. It is no big deal. ↗
The question of the family now divides our society so deeply that the opposing sides cannot even agree on a definition of the institution they are arguing about. ↗