#dysfunctional

It is not many things that modern psychology agress upon, but all the different approaches of psychology agrees on one thing: that people in groups become more stupid. Individually people are more intelligent, because they have to take their own responsibility, but in a group they do not have to take the same responsibility. The two basic power strategies to try to manipulate and gain control over another person are: silencing and attacking. Silencing means to not listen to, to exclude or ignore and not respect a person. Attack can both mean to attack a person directly or to try to discredit a person through lies, to ridicule a person or by spreading malicious rumours. All organizations are more or less dysfunctional. In a dysfunctional group, the members of the group play three different roles: agressor, denier and victim. The agressor is the role that attack and ridicule people, the denier never knows what is going on, there is “no body at home”, and the victim is the resultat of these two roles. It is always easier to follow a group without awareness, than to follow your own heart, to trust your own intelligence, love, truth, silence and creativity. ↗

— Swami Dhyan Giten

#awareness #creativity #denier #dysfunctional-organizations #ego

I know you deserve better than me. You think I don’t know that? But if there was any woman made for me … it’s you. ↗

— Jamie McGuire

#dysfunctional-relationship #love-story #the-one #beauty

I've learned that a family can have little glitches without being labeled dysfunctional. ↗

— Kathy Najimy

#dysfunctional #family #i #labeled #learned

Sex mirrored our drinking; both defined our relationship: selfish, detached, indulgent and satisfying." A Change Is Gonna Come ↗

— B.J. Neblett

#change #drinking #dysfunctional #relationship #self-indulgent

Bleeding ulcers run in my family, we give them to each other. ↗

— Lois McMaster Bujold

#dysfunctional-families #dysfunctional-family #family #problems #family

The survivor movements were also challenging the notion of a dysfunctional family as the cause and culture of abuse, rather than being one of the many places where abuse nested. This notion, which in the 190s and early 198s was the dominant understanding of professionals characterised the sex abuser as a pathetic person who had been denied sex and warmth by his wife, who in turn denied warmth to her daughters. Out of this dysfunctional triad grew the far-too-cosy incest dyad. Simply diagnosed, relying on the signs: alcoholic father, cold distant mother, provocative daughter. Simply resolved, because everyone would want to stop, to return to the functioning family where mum and dad had sex and daughter concentrated on her exams. Professionals really believed for a while that sex offenders would want to stop what they were doing. They thought if abuse were decriminalised, abusers would seek help. The survivors knew different. P5 ↗

— Beatrix Campbell

#abusers #child-abuse #crime #criminal #dysfunctional-family

There are two questions a man must ask himself: The first is 'Where am I going?' and the second is 'Who will go with me?' If you ever get these questions in the wrong order you are in trouble. ↗

— Sam Keen

#clinging #codependency #dysfunctional-relationship #howard-thurman #manhood

Any time an elected official in the world we're in today that appears so dysfunctional challenges a core constituency not of their opponent but of their own political base, I think we should pause and give them credit. ↗

— Jeb Bush

#appears #base #challenges #constituency #core

I play a guy who believes he's a king. He's the most common man in the world; in fact his family, like his suits, are just make-up. It's about dysfunctional people and dysfunctional relationships. ↗

— James Caan

#believes #common #common man #dysfunctional #fact

I don't look at her like she's a bad girl. She just misunderstood sometime, she's a little troubled, she's a little dysfunctional. She's a survivor. ↗

— Aida Turturro

#bad girl #dysfunctional #girl #her #i