#dysfunctional

It is not many things that modern psychology agress upon, but all the different approaches of psychology agrees on one thing: that people in groups become more stupid. Individually people are more intelligent, because they have to take their own responsibility, but in a group they do not have to take the same responsibility. The two basic power strategies to try to manipulate and gain control over another person are: silencing and attacking. Silencing means to not listen to, to exclude or ignore and not respect a person. Attack can both mean to attack a person directly or to try to discredit a person through lies, to ridicule a person or by spreading malicious rumours. All organizations are more or less dysfunctional. In a dysfunctional group, the members of the group play three different roles: agressor, denier and victim. The agressor is the role that attack and ridicule people, the denier never knows what is going on, there is “no body at home”, and the victim is the resultat of these two roles. It is always easier to follow a group without awareness, than to follow your own heart, to trust your own intelligence, love, truth, silence and creativity. ↗

— Swami Dhyan Giten

#awareness #creativity #denier #dysfunctional-organizations #ego

People who come from dysfunctional families are not destined for a dysfunctional life. ↗

— Bo Bennett

#destined #dysfunctional #families #life #people

We are angry about paying the highest income taxes and property taxes in the nation and getting less and less for it. We are angry about our incompetent, dysfunctional government that pays no attention to the desires of the people. We are angry about the cesspool of corruption and conflicts of interests and self-dealing that is Albany. ↗

— Carl Paladino

#albany #angry #attention #cesspool #conflicts

With the right support, a child growing up in a dysfunctional household, who was destined for a lifetime on benefits could be put on an entirely different track - one which sees them move into fulfilling and sustainable work. In doing so, they will pull themselves out of poverty. ↗

— Iain Duncan Smith

#child #could #destined #different #doing

I know you deserve better than me. You think I don’t know that? But if there was any woman made for me … it’s you. ↗

— Jamie McGuire

#dysfunctional-relationship #love-story #the-one #beauty

I've learned that a family can have little glitches without being labeled dysfunctional. ↗

— Kathy Najimy

#dysfunctional #family #i #labeled #learned

I grew up in a dysfunctional family. ↗

— Melissa Gilbert

#family #grew #i #up

Sex mirrored our drinking; both defined our relationship: selfish, detached, indulgent and satisfying." A Change Is Gonna Come ↗

— B.J. Neblett

#change #drinking #dysfunctional #relationship #self-indulgent

No, I wanted to say, he didn't cut off her hands because he didn't have to, he had cut them off long before, with years of keeping all authority in his own palms, all the rules and all the power and all the answers emanating from him and no one else. And if you don't understand that, if you've never been in such a family, then you can't know the way the mind shackles itself and amputates its own limbs so adeptly that you never think to miss them, never think that you had anything so obscene as choice. ↗

— Carolina De Robertis

#dysfunctional-families #family

Bleeding ulcers run in my family, we give them to each other. ↗

— Lois McMaster Bujold

#dysfunctional-families #dysfunctional-family #family #problems #family