#fidelity

Whether our caretaker was our mom, dad, uncle, aunt, grandparent, foster parent, or sibling, our blueprint of what a relationship is supposed to look like is drafted by what we observed from our caretaker’s relationship. If our caretaker took their significant other back multiple times, made excuses for their actions, helped them battle demons, turned a blind eye to their infidelity, or moved from one relationship to the next, that is what we know. Their behavior becomes our very own model of what a relationship is supposed to look like and determines what we will expect from our own partners. ↗

— Kristen Crockett

#parents #partners #relationships #infidelity

My mother is a firm believer in the long pause, useful in interrogations, proclamations of truth, and the occasional cutting dead of someone without their knowing it. ↗

— Suzanne Finnamore

#divorce #infidelity #interrogations #truth #infidelity

Affairs are like a seventh day. They are a break from all duties and obligations and responsibilities. I'm not saying this is right and I'm not saying it lightly. This is just how they are. You can't be responsible when you're with your lover. And since you already know you're way out of line, you go the extra distance. You throw yourself in headfirst. You become the very personification of irresponsible. You are way alive. Every detail sings. It would be a great way to live if it weren't so ruinous. ↗

— Wendy Plump

#infidelity

Total loyalty is possible only when fidelity is emptied of all concrete content, from which changes of mind might naturally arise. ↗

— Hannah Arendt

#changes #concrete #content #emptied #fidelity

If you say, I love you, then you have already fallen in love with language, which is already a form of break up and infidelity. ↗

— Jean Baudrillard

#break #break up #fallen #form #i

Physical infidelity is the signal, the notice given, that all fidelities are undermined. ↗

— Katherine Anne Porter

#infidelity #notice #physical #signal #undermined

Fidelity is a gift not a requirement. ↗

— Lilli Palmer

#gift #requirement

Between the ages of fourteen and twenty-four, foreplay changes from being something that boys want to do and girls don't, to something that women want and men can't be bothered with. ... The perfect match, if you ask me, is between the Cosmo woman and the fourteen-year old boy. ↗

— Nick Hornby

#age

You have my whole heart. You always did. ↗

— Cormac McCarthy

#fidelity #love #faith

I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong. ↗

— Haruki Murakami

#infidelity #love #pain #relationships #imagination