#pare

My brother and I were able to fantasize far more extravagantly about our parents' tastes and desires, their aspirations and their vices, by scanning their bookcases than by snooping in their closest. Their selves were on their shelves. ↗

— Anne Fadiman

#bookshelves #parents #shelves #aspiration

The danger of motherhood. you relive your early self, through the eyes of your mother. ↗

— Joyce Carol Oates

#motherhood #parenting #motherhood

If we never have headaches through rebuking our children, we shall have plenty of heartaches when they grow up. ↗

— Charles H. Spurgeon

#heartache

Whether our caretaker was our mom, dad, uncle, aunt, grandparent, foster parent, or sibling, our blueprint of what a relationship is supposed to look like is drafted by what we observed from our caretaker’s relationship. If our caretaker took their significant other back multiple times, made excuses for their actions, helped them battle demons, turned a blind eye to their infidelity, or moved from one relationship to the next, that is what we know. Their behavior becomes our very own model of what a relationship is supposed to look like and determines what we will expect from our own partners. ↗

— Kristen Crockett

#parents #partners #relationships #infidelity

This is the precept by which I have lived: Prepare for the worst; expect the best; and take what comes. ↗

— Hannah Arendt

#comes #expect #i #lived #precept

Fathers. Mothers. With all their caring and attention. They will f--- you up, every time. ↗

— Chuck Palahniuk

#father #mother #palahniuk #parent #snuff

Emma is a mattress who got thrown off the truck when her parents split up. It's not like you can blame a mattress when people don't tie it down tight enough. ↗

— Laurie Halse Anderson

#parenting

I honestly never once heard them fight. They yelled at us kids all the time, but never at each other. My siblings and I joke to this day about how the reason we have trouble in relationships is because we never learned how to fight from our parents. ↗

— Kathy Griffin

#parents-and-children #relationships #relationship

It may be possible to discover which religion is the most profound, but if we ask which religious system is best, it is difficult to respond. The value of a religion is relative to each individual. A religion's philosophical view may be the most profound and comprehensive, but still it can be inappropriate for a particular individual. Buddha did not always teach he most profound perspective. Rather than trying to force the deepest view on everyone, he taught according to individual interest and dispositions. ↗

— Dalai Lama XIV Becoming Enlightened

#compare #perspective #religion #systems #religion

Why isn't there a commandment to "honor thy children" or at least one to "not abuse thy children"? The notion that we must honor our parents causes many people to bury their real feelings and set aside their own needs in order to have a relationship with people they would otherwise not associate with. Parents, like anyone else, need to earn respect and honor, and honoring parents who are negative and abusive is not only impossible but extremely self-abusive. Perhaps, as with anything else, honoring our parents starts with honoring ourselves. For many adult children, honoring themselves means not having anything to do with one or both of their parents. ↗

— Beverly Engel

#child #parent #respect