#stan

…she eventually forgave him, because she understood him. ↗

— Whitney Otto

#understanding #forgiveness

How does one know if she has forgiven? You tend to feel sorrow over the circumstance instead of rage, you tend to feel sorry for the person rather than angry with him. You tend to have nothing left to say about it all. ↗

— Clarissa Pinkola Estes

#about #angry #circumstance #does #feel

There is a saying that to understand is to forgive, but that is an error, so Papa used to say. You must forgive in order to understand. Until you forgive, you defend yourself against the possibility of understanding. ... If you forgive, he would say, you may indeed still not understand, but you will be ready to understand, and that is the posture of grace. ↗

— Marilynne Robinson

#understanding #forgiveness

Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice. ↗

— Alain de Botton

#forgiveness #malice #suffering #understanding #forgiveness

Her definition of romance was absentminded intimacy, the way someone else's hand stray to your plate of food. I replied: no, that's just friendship; romance is always knowing exactly where that someone else's hands are. She smiled and said, there was a time I thought that way, too. But at the heart of the romance is the knowledge that those hands may wander off elsewhere, but somehow through luck or destiny or plain blind groping they'll find a way back to you, and maybe you'll be smart enough then to be grateful for everything that's still possible, in spit of your own weaknesses- and his. ↗

— Kamila Shamsie

#intimacy #karachi #love #pakistan #romance

Men have no more time to understand anything. They buy ready-made things in the shops. But since there are no shops where you can buy friends, men no longer have any friends. ↗

— Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

#friends #friendship #reflection #time #understanding

Next to coming to a good understanding with a new mistress, I love a quarrel with an old one. ↗

— George Etherege

#good #i #i love #love #mistress

It may be a species of impudence to think that the way you understand God is the way God is. (60). ↗

— Joseph Campbell

#god #hubris #impudence #understanding #art

How do you eat your roots? ↗

— Kamila Shamsie

#belonging #countries #home #identity #identity-crisis

Idleness is a constant sin, and labor is a duty. Idleness is the devil's home for temptation and for unprofitable, distracting musings; while labor profit others and ourselves. ↗

— Anne Baxter

#devil #distracting #duty #home #idleness