#blame

We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts of who's right and who's wrong. We do that with the people who are closest to us and we do it with political systems, with all kinds of things that we don't like about our associates or our society. It is a very common, ancient, well-perfected device for trying to feel better. Blame others....Blaming is a way to protect your heart, trying to protect what is soft and open and tender in yourself. Rather than own that pain, we scramble to find some comfortable ground. ↗

— Pema Chödrön

#compassion #inspiration #communication

All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished. ↗

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

#violence #communication

We may place blame, give reasons, and even have excuses; but in the end, it is an act of cowardice to not follow your dreams. ↗

— Steve Maraboli

#blame #cowardice #dreams #excuses #follow-your-dreams

On the subject of who is to blame for our disunity - “The easy conclusion- that the devil is at work trying to destroy the church- is true, but itʼs not the whole story. Of course the enemy is at work doing that. But closer examination shows that much of the blame falls squarely on the shoulders of the church itself-on believers in god-and how our own devilish deeds have alienated other followers of God. Sadly, weʼve done the devilʼs work for him. ↗

— Ed Galisewski

#christian #christians #church #devil #faith

Don't you dare take the lazy way. It's too easy to excuse yourself because of your ancestry. Don't let me catch you doing it! Now -- look close at me so you will remember. Whatever you do, it will be you who do. ↗

— John Steinbeck

#excuses #family #family

Many Survivors blame themselves for the abuse and continue to feel responsible and guilty for anything bad that happens to them or to other people they know. Survivors often feel bad about themselves and different from other people. They therefore isolate themselves from other people and avoid making close friendships. ↗

— Carolyn Ainscough

#child-abuse #isolation #rape #sexual-abuse #survivors

The bloody times, the horror, will just be history to them, words on a page, so how will they dare to judge? Very easily, I should imagine. ↗

— Storm Constantine

#history #judgement #imagination

Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame. ↗

— Erica Jong

#hands #happens #life #own #take

There is a luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves, we feel that no one else has a right to blame us. It is the confession, not the priest, that gives us absolution. ↗

— Oscar Wilde

#confession #sin #blame

If you reveal your secrets to the wind, you should not blame the wind for revealing them to the trees. ↗

— Kahlil Gibran

#blame