#dependence

Trust is like a two-way mirror, transparent on one side, with a blind dimness unable to see through on the other side. ↗

— Anthony Liccione

#blind #confidence #conviction #dependence #dimness

My mother used to tell me that when push comes to shove, you always know who to turn to. That being a family isn't a social construct but an instinct. ↗

— Jodi Picoult

#family #love #faith

Enmeshment creates almost total dependence on approval and validation from outside yourself. Lovers, bosses, friends, even strangers become the stand-in for parents. Adults like Kim who were raised in families where there was no permission to be an individual frequently become approval junkies, constantly seeking their next fix. ↗

— Susan Forward

#family

...freedom is of more account than the height of a roof beam. I ought to know; mine cost me eighteen years' slavery. The man who lives on his own land is an independent man. He is his own master. If I can keep my sheep alive through winter and can pay what has been stipulated from year to year - then I pay what has been stipulated; and I have kept my sheep alive. No, it is freedom that we are all after, Titla. He who pays his way is a king. He who keeps his sheep alive through the winter lives in a palace. ↗

— Halldór Laxness

#freedom #independence #sheep #solitude #freedom

I don't want to have to save your life,' Chord says softly. 'Not when you can do it. ↗

— Elsie Chapman

#life

Time is the most valuable coin in your life. You and you alone will determine how that coin will be spent. Be careful that you do not let other people spend it for you. ↗

— Carl Sandburg

#independence #people #time #truism #life

Then, one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...you give them a piece of you. They don't ask for it. They do something dumb one day like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. ↗

— Neil Gaiman

#interdependence #life #love #life

When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment. ↗

— Warren Farrell

#independence #marriage #men #women #marriage

It was a fact generally acknowledged by all but the most contumacious spirits at the beginning of the seventeenth century that woman was the weaker vessel; weaker than man, that is. ... That was the way God had arranged Creation, sanctified in the words of the Apostle. ... Under the common law of England at the accession of King James I, no female had any rights at all (if some were allowed by custom). As an unmarried woman her rights were swallowed up in her father's, and she was his to dispose of in marriage at will. Once she was married her property became absolutely that of her husband. What of those who did not marry? Common law met that problem blandly by not recognizing it. In the words of The Lawes Resolutions [the leading 17th century compendium on women's legal status]: 'All of them are understood either married or to be married.' In 1603 England, in short, still lived in a world governed by feudal law, where a wife passed from the guardianship of her father to her husband; her husband also stood in relation to her as a feudal lord. ↗

— Antonia Fraser

#common-law #empowerment #fathers #feminism #feudalism

The telling and hearing of stories is a bonding ritual that breaks through illusions of separateness and activates a deep sense of our collective interdependence. ↗

— Annette Simmons

#illusions #interdependence #ritual #stories #storytelling