#functional

There's something to that in both directions," said Ekaterin mildly. "Nothing is more guaranteed to make one start acting like a child than to be treated like one. It's so infuriating. It took me the longest time to figure out how to stop falling into that trap." "Yes, exactly," said Kareen eagerly. "You understand! So—how did you make them stop?" "You can't make them—whoever your particular them is—do anything, really," said Ekaterin slowly. "Adulthood isn't an award they'll give you for being a good child. You can waste . . . years, trying to get someone to give that respect to you, as though it were a sort of promotion or raise in pay. If only you do enough, if only you are good enough. No. You have to just . . . take it. Give it to yourself, I suppose. Say, I'm sorry you feel like that, and walk away. But that's hard. ↗

— Lois McMaster Bujold

#dysfunctional-families #family #mental-health #family

It is not many things that modern psychology agress upon, but all the different approaches of psychology agrees on one thing: that people in groups become more stupid. Individually people are more intelligent, because they have to take their own responsibility, but in a group they do not have to take the same responsibility. The two basic power strategies to try to manipulate and gain control over another person are: silencing and attacking. Silencing means to not listen to, to exclude or ignore and not respect a person. Attack can both mean to attack a person directly or to try to discredit a person through lies, to ridicule a person or by spreading malicious rumours. All organizations are more or less dysfunctional. In a dysfunctional group, the members of the group play three different roles: agressor, denier and victim. The agressor is the role that attack and ridicule people, the denier never knows what is going on, there is “no body at home”, and the victim is the resultat of these two roles. It is always easier to follow a group without awareness, than to follow your own heart, to trust your own intelligence, love, truth, silence and creativity. ↗

— Swami Dhyan Giten

#awareness #creativity #denier #dysfunctional-organizations #ego

People who come from dysfunctional families are not destined for a dysfunctional life. ↗

— Bo Bennett

#destined #dysfunctional #families #life #people

We are angry about paying the highest income taxes and property taxes in the nation and getting less and less for it. We are angry about our incompetent, dysfunctional government that pays no attention to the desires of the people. We are angry about the cesspool of corruption and conflicts of interests and self-dealing that is Albany. ↗

— Carl Paladino

#albany #angry #attention #cesspool #conflicts

I've learned that a family can have little glitches without being labeled dysfunctional. ↗

— Kathy Najimy

#dysfunctional #family #i #labeled #learned

There are two things you can run and not hide from- God and a dysfunctional family". ~R. Alan Woods [2012] ↗

— R. Alan Woods

#r-alan-woods #family

Any time an elected official in the world we're in today that appears so dysfunctional challenges a core constituency not of their opponent but of their own political base, I think we should pause and give them credit. ↗

— Jeb Bush

#appears #base #challenges #constituency #core

I'm becoming far more interested in just functionality and making sure my body is as strong as it can be so I can swing my kids around and not worry about aches and pains. ↗

— Matt Damon

#aches #around #becoming #body #far

The most important consideration I have is I want my legislative shop to have a functional office suite that is conducive to getting their work accomplished. ↗

— Steve Womack

#conducive #consideration #functional #getting #i

Our ultimate goal is extensible programming (EP). By this, we mean the construction of hierarchies of modules, each module adding new functionality to the system. ↗

— Niklaus Wirth

#construction #each #functionality #goal #hierarchies