#pat

If I show up on your doorstep don't worry I'm just there to party. ↗

— Kenny D. Eichenberg

#drinking #friendship #life #partying #paty

I used to think that finding the right one was about the man having a list of certain qualities. If he has them, we'd be compatible and happy. Sort of a checkmark system that was a complete failure. But I found out that a healthy relationship isn't so much about sense of humor or intelligence or attractive. It's about avoiding partners with harmful traits and personality types. And then it's about being with a good person. A good person on his own, and a good person with you. Where the space between you feels uncomplicated and happy. A good relationship is where things just work. They work because, whatever the list of qualities, whatever the reason, you happen to be really, really good together. ↗

— Deb Caletti

#checkmark #compatible #good #happy #harmful

We've forgotten much. How to struggle, how to rise to dizzy heights and sink to unparalleled depths. We no longer aspire to anything. Even the finer shades of despair are lost to us. We've ceased to be runners. We plod from structure to conveyance to employment and back again. We live within the boundaries that science has determined for us. The measuring stick is short and sweet. The full gamut of life is a brief, shadowy continuum that runs from gray to more gray. The rainbow is bleached. We hardly know how to doubt anymore. (“The Thing”) ↗

— Richard Matheson

#aspiration #progress #life

But pattern-matching doesn't equal comprehension. ↗

— Peter Watts

#intelligence #pattern-matching #equality

If you have the power to hit people over the head whenever you want, you don’t have to trouble yourself too much figuring out what they think is going on, and therefore, generally speaking, you don’t. Hence the sure-fire way to simplify social arrangements, to ignore the incredibly complex play of perspectives, passions, insights, desires, and mutual understandings that human life is really made of, is to make a rule and threaten to attack anyone who breaks it. This is why violence has always been the favored recourse of the stupid: it is the one form of stupidity to which it is almost impossible to come up with an intelligent response. It is also of course the basis of the state. ↗

— David Graeber

#government #intelligence #stupidity #violence #intelligence

Remember the botched brothel-visit in L’Education sentimentale and remember its lesson. Do not participate: happiness lies in the imagination, not the act. Pleasure is found first in anticipation, later in memory. ↗

— Julian Barnes

#happiness #life #memory #pleasure #education

One cannot lead well until one learns to follow well. ↗

— Jacqueline Patricks

#leadership-characteristics #leadership-development #leading-vs-following #leadership

You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view... Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it. ↗

— Harper Lee

#life

Patience, grasshopper," said Maia. "Good things come to those who wait." "I always thought that was 'Good things come to those who do the wave,'" said Simon. "No wonder I've been so confused all my life. ↗

— Cassandra Clare

#patience #simon #wit #life

To perceive is to suffer. ↗

— Aristotle

#life #suffer #understanding #life