#blame

I was still searching for someone to blame for my suffering. I really wanted someone to transfer my hate to, so that I could stop hating myself. ↗

— Glenn Beck

#doubt #hate #shame #change

We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts of who's right and who's wrong. We do that with the people who are closest to us and we do it with political systems, with all kinds of things that we don't like about our associates or our society. It is a very common, ancient, well-perfected device for trying to feel better. Blame others....Blaming is a way to protect your heart, trying to protect what is soft and open and tender in yourself. Rather than own that pain, we scramble to find some comfortable ground. ↗

— Pema Chödrön

#compassion #inspiration #communication

All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished. ↗

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

#violence #communication

We may place blame, give reasons, and even have excuses; but in the end, it is an act of cowardice to not follow your dreams. ↗

— Steve Maraboli

#blame #cowardice #dreams #excuses #follow-your-dreams

Many Survivors blame themselves for the abuse and continue to feel responsible and guilty for anything bad that happens to them or to other people they know. Survivors often feel bad about themselves and different from other people. They therefore isolate themselves from other people and avoid making close friendships. ↗

— Carolyn Ainscough

#child-abuse #isolation #rape #sexual-abuse #survivors

The bloody times, the horror, will just be history to them, words on a page, so how will they dare to judge? Very easily, I should imagine. ↗

— Storm Constantine

#history #judgement #imagination

we choose for our selves what's right or wrong... but when we make mistakes we blame someone else(parents) ↗

— Meena Khan

#life #life

Are not half our lives spent in reproaches for foregone actions, of the true nature and consequences of which we were wholly ignorant at the time? ↗

— Herman Melville

#reproach #waste #nature

Now, should we treat women as independent agents, responsible for themselves? Of course. But being responsible has nothing to do with being raped. Women don’t get raped because they were drinking or took drugs. Women do not get raped because they weren’t careful enough. Women get raped because someone raped them. ↗

— Jessica Valenti

#female-liberation #feminism #rape #independence

I pay no attention whatever to anybody's praise or blame. I simply follow my own feelings. ↗

— Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart

#attention #blame #feelings #follow #i