#boundaries

Children who are not encouraged to do, to try, to explore, to master, and to risk failure, often feel helpless and inadequate. Over-controlled by anxious, fearful parents, these children often become anxious and fearful themselves. This makes it difficult for them to mature. Many never outgrow the need for ongoing parental guidance and control. As a result, their parents continue to invade, manipulate, and frequently dominate their lives. ↗

— Susan Forward

#boundaries #children #control #controlled #failure

The question of boundaries is a major question of the Jewish people because the Jews are the great experts of crossing boundaries. They have a sense of identity inside themselves that doesn't permit them to cross boundaries with other people. ↗

— A. B. Yehoshua

#boundaries #cross #crossing #experts #great

I like that: a little pressure on the understood boundaries of yourself. Sounded like something out of a self-awareness class, probably with yoga. See what kind of a pretzel you can tie yourself into and press on the understood... I was raving, if only to myself. ↗

— Robin McKinley

#humor #self-awareness #yoga #humor

The most important distinction anyone can ever make in their life is between who they are as an individual and their connection with others. ↗

— Anné Linden

#life

People who violate your boundaries are thieves. They steal time that doesn’t belong to them. ↗

— Elizabeth Grace Saunders

#empowerment #honor-yourself #time-investment #time-management #work-life-balance

So there's kind of a simultaneous aspect to pushing the boundaries, and being very safe. ↗

— Bill Sienkiewicz

#being #boundaries #kind #pushing #safe

Now I've been criticized for advocating that people push their boundaries because sometimes people get caught. Sometimes people get fired. Sometimes people lose their jobs because of pushing the boundaries too far, but it's an interesting experience. They found they didn't want to stay within those limitations that they were pushing. Once people find they can survive outside the limits, they're much happier. They don't want to feel trapped. So I think we can urge people to push the boundaries as far as they can, and if they get in trouble, fine; that's not too bad if that's what they want to do. ↗

— Myles Horton

#challenging #democracy #forward #progress #pushing

Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over. ↗

— Henry Cloud and John Townsend

#dating #values #dating

every healthy marriage is composed of walls and windows. The windows are the aspects of your relationship that are open to the world—that is, the necessary gaps through which you interact with family and friends; the walls are the barriers of trust behind which you guard the most intimatesecrets of your marriage. ↗

— Elizabeth Gilbert

#fidelity #marriage #family

When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice. ↗

— Brené Brown

#boundaries #life #relationships #relationship