#code

The psyche cannot tolerate a vacuum of love. In the severely abused or deprived child, pain, dis-ease, and violance rush in to fill the void. In the average person in our culture, who has been only "normally" deprived of touch, anxiety and an insatiable hunger for posessions replace the missing eros. The child lacking a sense of welcome, joyous belonging, gratuitous security, will learn to hoard the limited supply of affection. According to the law of psychic compensation, not being held leads to holding on, grasping, addiction, posessiveness. Gradually, things replace people as a source of pleasure and security. When the gift of belonging with is denied, the child learns that love means belongin to. To the degree we are arrested at this stage of development, the needy child will dominate our motivations. Other people and things (and there is fundamentally no difference) will be seen as existing solely for the purpose of "my" survival and satisfaction. "Mine" will become the most important word. ↗

— Sam Keen

#codependency #narcissism #life

I like the English. They have the most rigid code of immorality in the world. ↗

— Malcolm Bradbury

#english #i #immorality #like #most

If there are going to be people out there making war on other people, don't you think it's a good idea for some of those people to at least follow a code of ethics? Not 'honor' but something you can pin down and be sure of, something with the same rules for everybody. ↗

— Mercedes Lackey

#down #ethics #everybody #follow #going

In Italy, the Milanese are well organized but follow bourgeois taste. They adhere to certain codes of elegance, but not to individualism. ↗

— Christian Lacroix

#bourgeois #certain #codes #elegance #follow

To me, no one has fully cracked the code on social recruiting yet. ↗

— Eric Lefkofsky

#cracked #fully #me #recruiting #social

The ancient codes were doubtless originally suggested by the discovery and diffusion of the art of writing. ↗

— Henry James Sumner Maine

#art #codes #diffusion #discovery #doubtless

The ancient Roman code belongs to a class of which almost every civilised nation in the world can show a sample, and which, so far as the Roman and Hellenic worlds were concerned, were largely diffused over them at epochs not widely distant from one another. ↗

— Henry James Sumner Maine

#ancient #another #belongs #civilised #class

I think all villains have something in common: they have something that they need or want very, very badly. The stakes are very high and they are not bound by moral codes or being ethical, so they can do anything and will do anything to get what they want. ↗

— Donna Murphy

#badly #being #bound #codes #common

The important thing about tax reform is you make the tax code less complicated, easier for people to understand. ↗

— Grover Norquist

#code #complicated #easier #important #important thing

David Stern should get with the mothers of the NBA and let the moms decide what the dress code should be. I asked my mother if I could wear a chain, and she told me yeah. So I do stuff that my parents allow me to do. ↗

— Shaquille O'Neal

#asked #chain #code #could #david