Part of resilience is deciding to make yourself miserable over something that matters, or deciding to make yourself miserable over something that doesn't matter. ↗
In my family, in the days prior to television, we liked to while away the evenings by making ourselves miserable, solely based on our ability to speak the language viciously. ↗
I didn't think marriage worked. I thought everybody who was married was secretly miserable - that it was something they just put up with for their children. ↗