#depend

I really wanted to work and become independent. ↗

— Victoria Abril

#i #independent #really #wanted #work

The psyche cannot tolerate a vacuum of love. In the severely abused or deprived child, pain, dis-ease, and violance rush in to fill the void. In the average person in our culture, who has been only "normally" deprived of touch, anxiety and an insatiable hunger for posessions replace the missing eros. The child lacking a sense of welcome, joyous belonging, gratuitous security, will learn to hoard the limited supply of affection. According to the law of psychic compensation, not being held leads to holding on, grasping, addiction, posessiveness. Gradually, things replace people as a source of pleasure and security. When the gift of belonging with is denied, the child learns that love means belongin to. To the degree we are arrested at this stage of development, the needy child will dominate our motivations. Other people and things (and there is fundamentally no difference) will be seen as existing solely for the purpose of "my" survival and satisfaction. "Mine" will become the most important word. ↗

— Sam Keen

#codependency #narcissism #life

I once asked her if she got bored living alone, and she said, 'To say one is bored to be alone is to admit that one has no inner resources. ↗

— Lois Battle

#living-alone #the-single-life #life

Why do only the awful things become fads? I thought. Eye-rolling and Barbie and bread pudding. Why never chocolate cheesecake or thinking for yourself? ↗

— Connie Willis

#bellwether #fads #humour #independence #independence

Solitude is independence. It had been my wish and with the years I had attained it. It was cold. Oh, cold enough! But it was also still, wonderfully still and vast like the cold stillness of space in which the stars revolve. ↗

— Hermann Hesse

#independence

To be independent of public opinion is the first formal condition of achieving anything great. ↗

— Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel

#independence

Associate with noblest people you can find; read the best books; live with the mighty. But learn to be happy alone. Rely upon your own energies, and so not wait for, or depend on other people. ↗

— Thomas Davidson

#independence #self-reliance #independence

To find yourself, think for yourself. ↗

— Socrates

#self-reliance #independence

People can tell you to keep your mouth shut, but that doesn't stop you from having your own opinion. ↗

— Anne Frank

#opinions #independence

What! Would I be turned back from doing a thing that I had determined to do, and that I knew to be right, by the airs and interference of such a person, or any person I may say? No, I have no idea of being so easily persuaded. When I have made up my mind, I have made it. ↗

— Jane Austen

#empowerment #independence #interference #judgment #persuasion