When somebody gives up their friends and everything they do just to be with a person, they wake up miserable one day. They're denying themselves for no real reason other than they think that's the thing to do. ↗
If you watch young children play, you will notice that they create games, characters, situations, whole worlds in which they immerse themselves with intense concentration. ↗
Most adults, unlike most children, understand the difference between a book that will hold them spellbound for a rainy Sunday afternoon and a book that will put them in touch with a part of themselves they didn't even know existed. ↗
I see no way out of the problems that organized religion and tribalism create other than humans just becoming more honest and fully aware of themselves. ↗