#inadequate

Living with life is very hard. Mostly we do our best to stifle life - to be tame or to be wanton. to be tranquillised or raging. Extremes have the same effect; they insulate us from the intensity of life. And extremes - whether of dullness or fury - successfully prevent feeling. I know our feelings can be so unbearable that we employ ingenious strategies - unconscious strategies- to keep those feelings away. We do a feelings-swap, where we avoid feeling sad or lonely or afraid or inadequate, and feel angry instead. It can work the other way, too - sometimes you do need to feel angry, not inadequate; sometimes you do need to feel love and acceptance, and not the tragic drama of your life. It takes courage to feel the feeling - and not trade it on the feelings-exchange, or even transfer it altogether to another person. You know how in couples one person is always doing all the weeping or the raging while the other one seems so calm and reasonable? I understood that feelings were difficult for me although I was overwhelmed by them. ↗

— Jeanette Winterson

#avoidance #feelings #inadequate #life #living-life

All anger is not sinful, because some degree of it, and on some occasions, is inevitable. But it becomes sinful and contradicts the rule of Scripture when it is conceived upon slight and inadequate provocation, and when it continues long. ↗

— Wilson Mizner

#because #becomes #conceived #continues #contradicts

I was the Secretary of State of New Jersey in November 2000. I paid careful attention to the challenges that stemmed from inadequate voting systems in various places. ↗

— DeForest Soaries

#careful #challenges #i #inadequate #jersey

It is sadder to find the past again and find it inadequate to the present than it is to have it elude you and remain forever a harmonious conception of memory. ↗

— F. Scott Fitzgerald

#conception #elude #find #forever #harmonious

Informed decision-making comes from a long tradition of guessing and then blaming others for inadequate results. ↗

— Scott Adams

#blaming #comes #decision-making #guessing #inadequate

Evil, and evil spirits, devils and devil possession, are the outgrowth of man's inadequate consciousness of God. We must avoid thinking of evil as a thing in itself - a force that works against man or, against God, if you will. ↗

— Eric Butterworth

#avoid #consciousness #devil #devils #evil

The dogmas of the quiet past are inadequate to the stormy present. The occasion is piled high with difficulty, and we must rise with the occasion. As our case is new, so we must think anew and act anew. ↗

— Abraham Lincoln

#act #anew #case #difficulty #dogmas

If American schooling is inadequate now, just imagine how much more obsolete it will be when today's kindergarten students graduate from high school in just 12 years. ↗

— Janet Napolitano

#graduate #high #high school #how #imagine

Let's not dismiss or attack individual ideas as being inadequate before we have had a chance to assess their positive effect as part of a whole solution. ↗

— John Thune

#attack #before #being #chance #dismiss

The more I read about feeding times, sleep times and waking-up times, the more inadequate and miserable I felt. ↗

— Gail Porter

#feeding #felt #i #inadequate #miserable