#inadequate

Living with life is very hard. Mostly we do our best to stifle life - to be tame or to be wanton. to be tranquillised or raging. Extremes have the same effect; they insulate us from the intensity of life. And extremes - whether of dullness or fury - successfully prevent feeling. I know our feelings can be so unbearable that we employ ingenious strategies - unconscious strategies- to keep those feelings away. We do a feelings-swap, where we avoid feeling sad or lonely or afraid or inadequate, and feel angry instead. It can work the other way, too - sometimes you do need to feel angry, not inadequate; sometimes you do need to feel love and acceptance, and not the tragic drama of your life. It takes courage to feel the feeling - and not trade it on the feelings-exchange, or even transfer it altogether to another person. You know how in couples one person is always doing all the weeping or the raging while the other one seems so calm and reasonable? I understood that feelings were difficult for me although I was overwhelmed by them. ↗

— Jeanette Winterson

#avoidance #feelings #inadequate #life #living-life

All anger is not sinful, because some degree of it, and on some occasions, is inevitable. But it becomes sinful and contradicts the rule of Scripture when it is conceived upon slight and inadequate provocation, and when it continues long. ↗

— Wilson Mizner

#because #becomes #conceived #continues #contradicts

When words become unclear, I shall focus with photographs. When images become inadequate, I shall be content with silence. ↗

— Ansel Adams

#content #focus #i #images #inadequate

It's strange that words are so inadequate. Yet, like the asthmatic struggling for breath, so the lover must struggle for words. ↗

— T. S. Eliot

#breath #inadequate #like #lover #must

It is sadder to find the past again and find it inadequate to the present than it is to have it elude you and remain forever a harmonious conception of memory. ↗

— F. Scott Fitzgerald

#conception #elude #find #forever #harmonious

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us. ↗

— Marianne Williamson

#darkness #deepest #fear #frightens #inadequate

I think it's a little irresponsible for women who choose surgery to then say they can portray the average woman on the street, because if the average woman can't afford those treatments, then she's going to say, 'I'm 53 and I don't look like that,' and start thinking she's ugly or inadequate. ↗

— Debra Winger

#average #average woman #because #choose #going

The Soviet Union did not achieve victory over the West, so was my information inadequate to help them to victory, or did it play no particular role in their failure to achieve victory? ↗

— Aldrich Ames

#did #failure #help #inadequate #information

You have to discover when you're inadequate to be funny and you don't know you're inadequate when you're a kid. ↗

— Larry David

#funny #inadequate #kid #know #you

I used to work a lot on food issues and every time somebody predicted that production would be inadequate they got egg on their face a year or two later. ↗

— Susan George

#every #every time #face #food #got