#iona

The survivor movements were also challenging the notion of a dysfunctional family as the cause and culture of abuse, rather than being one of the many places where abuse nested. This notion, which in the 190s and early 198s was the dominant understanding of professionals characterised the sex abuser as a pathetic person who had been denied sex and warmth by his wife, who in turn denied warmth to her daughters. Out of this dysfunctional triad grew the far-too-cosy incest dyad. Simply diagnosed, relying on the signs: alcoholic father, cold distant mother, provocative daughter. Simply resolved, because everyone would want to stop, to return to the functioning family where mum and dad had sex and daughter concentrated on her exams. Professionals really believed for a while that sex offenders would want to stop what they were doing. They thought if abuse were decriminalised, abusers would seek help. The survivors knew different. P5 ↗

— Beatrix Campbell

#abusers #child-abuse #crime #criminal #dysfunctional-family

I am heartened to find so much wit in you, that you'd give thought to consequences and choose your way with reason, not passion only. ↗

— Deborah J. Lightfoot

#critical-thinking #decision-making #rational-thought #anger

You are the machos, the life, the future of our families. You are all that's left, so you must protect our mothers and grow and do good and have families of your own. I love you. I do. I do. ↗

— Victor Villaseñor

#family #inspirational #integrity #love #family

The conventional view serves to protect us from the painful job of thinking. ↗

— John Kenneth Galbraith

#job #painful #protect #serves #thinking

I let all that anger and worry go because they don't belong to me any more than the future does. And I don't wanna feel them anyhow, because the truth is, whatever happens when this war ends, here and now, far from Richmond County, I'm freer than I've ever been. ↗

— Teresa R. Funke

#inspiration #inspirational #life #war #wisdom

All these things are miracles. It is a miracle if you can find true friends, and it is a miracle if you have enough food to eat, and it is a miracle if you get to spend your days and evenings doing whatever it is you like to do. ↗

— Lemony Snicket

#food

And I don’t even like you, but the pain of life without you is biting. ↗

— Coco J. Ginger

#friendship #hate #jamie-weise #love #missing-you

When I get a little money I buy books, and if I have any left, I buy food and clothes. ↗

— Desiderius Erasmus Roterodamus

#erasmus #humor-inspirational #inspirational #food

You know what I wish? I wish I could put time in a bottle and throw it into the ocean. Then I would have forever to spend with you. I wouldn’t need air to breathe or food to eat. Holding you in my arms would be all the food I would need. Having your love would be the only air I would need to breathe. ↗

— Lynn Austin

#love #romance #food

Memory is a crazy woman that hoards colored rags and throws away food. ↗

— Austin O'Malley

#irrationality #memory #food