#neglect

How would it be possible if salvation were ready to our hand, and could without great labor be found, that it should be by almost all men neglected? But all things excellent are as difficult as they are rare. ↗

— Baruch Spinoza

#almost #could #difficult #excellent #found

Perpetual devotion to what a man calls his business is only to be sustained by perpetual neglect of many other things. ↗

— Robert Louis Stevenson

#calls #devotion #his #man #many

Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond who you were. ↗

— Jonathan Anthony Burkett

#anger #aspiration #control #forgiveness #grow

The survivor movements were also challenging the notion of a dysfunctional family as the cause and culture of abuse, rather than being one of the many places where abuse nested. This notion, which in the 190s and early 198s was the dominant understanding of professionals characterised the sex abuser as a pathetic person who had been denied sex and warmth by his wife, who in turn denied warmth to her daughters. Out of this dysfunctional triad grew the far-too-cosy incest dyad. Simply diagnosed, relying on the signs: alcoholic father, cold distant mother, provocative daughter. Simply resolved, because everyone would want to stop, to return to the functioning family where mum and dad had sex and daughter concentrated on her exams. Professionals really believed for a while that sex offenders would want to stop what they were doing. They thought if abuse were decriminalised, abusers would seek help. The survivors knew different. P5 ↗

— Beatrix Campbell

#abusers #child-abuse #crime #criminal #dysfunctional-family

He learned how quickly love died when you weren't looking; if you weren't looking. ↗

— Andre Dubus

#love

Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike. ↗

— J. K. Rowling

#dislike #indifference #more #much #neglect

It is better to take what does not belong to you than to let it lie around neglected. ↗

— Mark Twain

#belong #better #does #lie #neglected

Modernity is the transitory, the fugitive, the contingent, which make up one half of art, the other being the eternal and the immutable. This transitory fugitive element, which is constantly changing, must not be despised or neglected. ↗

— Charles Baudelaire

#being #changing #constantly #contingent #despised

Neglect of appearance becomes men. ↗

— Ovid

#becomes #men #neglect

Genius, like truth, has a shabby and neglected mien. ↗

— Edward Dahlberg

#like #neglected #shabby #truth