#offend

The survivor movements were also challenging the notion of a dysfunctional family as the cause and culture of abuse, rather than being one of the many places where abuse nested. This notion, which in the 190s and early 198s was the dominant understanding of professionals characterised the sex abuser as a pathetic person who had been denied sex and warmth by his wife, who in turn denied warmth to her daughters. Out of this dysfunctional triad grew the far-too-cosy incest dyad. Simply diagnosed, relying on the signs: alcoholic father, cold distant mother, provocative daughter. Simply resolved, because everyone would want to stop, to return to the functioning family where mum and dad had sex and daughter concentrated on her exams. Professionals really believed for a while that sex offenders would want to stop what they were doing. They thought if abuse were decriminalised, abusers would seek help. The survivors knew different. P5 ↗

— Beatrix Campbell

#abusers #child-abuse #crime #criminal #dysfunctional-family

Books choose their authors; the act of creation is not entirely a rational and conscious one. ↗

— Salman Rushdie

#ceases #exist #expression #freedom of expression #offend

When people do not respect us we are sharply offended; yet in his private heart no man much respects himself. ↗

— Mark Twain

#heart #himself #his #man #much

The one thing that offends me the most is when I walk by a bank and see ads trying to convince people to take out second mortgages on their home so they can go on vacation. That's approaching evil. ↗

— Jeff Bezos

#approaching #bank #convince #evil #go

I don't know of many evangelicals who want to deny gay couples their legal rights. However, most of us don't want to call it marriage, because we think that word has religious connotations, and we're not ready to see it used in ways that offend us. ↗

— Tony Campolo

#call #connotations #couples #deny #evangelicals

I think everything worked out the way it was supposed to. Mark's happier. I'm sober. There are still phone calls to be made, people I need to say something to. But everyone from Creed who I've offended or hurt, I ask for their forgiveness. ↗

— Scott Stapp

#calls #creed #everyone #everything #forgiveness

For touching an adversary's man, when it cannot be captured, the offender must move his King. ↗

— Howard Staunton

#cannot #captured #his #king #man

Nothing is so great an example of bad manners as flattery. If you flatter all the company, you please none; If you flatter only one or two, you offend the rest. ↗

— Jonathan Swift

#bad manners #company #example #flatter #flattery

That text-books be permitted in Catholic schools such as will not offend the religious views of the minority, and which from an educational standpoint shall be satisfactory to the advisory board. ↗

— Charles Tupper

#board #catholic #catholic schools #educational #minority

How shall I lose the sin, yet keep the sense, and love the offender, yet detest the offence? ↗

— Alexander Pope

#how #i #keep #lose #love