I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision... is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.

She attended a Friends (Quaker) school up through her high school years. Verlaine painted did figure drawings and illustrated several books written by Deming. During the time that they were together Meigs and Deming moved to Wellfleet Massachusetts where Barbara Deming befriended the writer and critic Edmund Wilson and his circle of friends.