Never judge someone by who he's in love with; judge him by his friends. People fall in love with the most appalling people. Take a cool, appraising glance at his pals.

Her column was ended around 2000 when the editors of Playboy expressed concern that Heimel's feminist attitudes would put off male readers. Heimel's first book Sex Tips for Girls was a semi-satirical take on Cosmopolitan (and other "women's" magazines) and their "how to please your man" approach to feminism. She resides in Oakland California.