Also, I had read a book called She's Not There: A Life in Two Genders, written by a professor who had gone through transgender surgery, but it took this person well into his thirties to come to terms with the absolute necessity of having to do it.

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Ruehl (born February 28 1948) is an American theater television and film actress. Mercedes J.